Recently we have had
to lose one of our family pets. The experience
was obviously very sad but strangely it triggered some old memories.
Over the last 11 years Ill obviously have many fond memories, however, thinking of Missy reminded one of
the biggest days of my life…..returning home from hospital.
I have not really
written a blog about my hospital experience.
I have only been writing for about a year and the op was 8 years ago and
a distant memory.
As I am sure I have
hinted my experience after my diagnosis was a bit of a blur! I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitus (an
IBD) and then a few weeks later told I also had bowel cancer and needed a major
operation.
I actually remember
the day well. It was February and in
true to British weather it hadn’t snowed in Dec or Jan but start Feb we had a
fair amount of snow. Looking back I should’ve
known something was up. I received a
letter from the NHS informing me I had an appointment for the following
day. Up until this stage I had had
little experience with the NHS so thought nothing of this short notice reply.
My appointment was for
early the next day. I was so naïve that myself
and Carley drove in separate cars. I
expected the appointment to be quick and then id be off to work. I was suited and booted ready for a day in
the office. The next clue was due to the
adverse weather the consultant was running late. The nurses were personally coming over to me
and apologising for the dealy and giving me regular updates on his
progress. After 8 years of appointments
I know this is not normal! On reflection they weren’t updating anyone
else in the waiting room, ignorance is bliss huh!
I remember very little
about the appointment. I remember
laughing hysterically between the tears once I was told I had Cancer. I recall a brief drawing explain where the tumour
was and what type of operation I would need. I remember being taken by the Colorectal Nurses
to a room allowing me to absorb the details of what we had just been told. I remember calling my boss at the time and
explaining that I wouldn’t be in, random right!
The journey home was a
blur. My next recollection was telling
my mum. I couldn’t tell her this over
the phone and I couldn’t find the stegnth to speak to her and tell her that she
had to some home urgently. I had to
contact my step dad and ask him to contact her so they could come home
early. Telling her was one of the toughest
moments of my life. I can still see her
face now as she digested the news. I think
we all knew that something was wrong when I had asked them to come home, but,
hearing the words makes it real.
Ironic really as only
a few months after my operation my mum had to have the same conversation with
me.
She had been diagnosed with breast
cancer and required an op and some radiotherapy. Mum and I were always close but an unusual
silver lining of our respective brushes with Cancer it actually brought us
closer. I find that speaking to fellow
survivors or Ostomist often you don’t need to explain there is almost an
unspoken understanding of what you have been or are going through.
Anyway I digress. My date for my operation came and I tried to
continue with work. Unsuccessfully I may
add as concentrating was almost impossible.
The week before I took some time off, again I do not remember much,
expect going to the cinema on my own to see the first Ghost Rider (Nicolas
Cage) film. Good job I was distracted as
man it was a bad film!
My operation came some
minor complications (which will prob be another blog post) and ahead of
scheduled within 4 days after my stubbornness paid off I was discharged and
sent home. Bringing us full circle to my
original point. The journey home was
painful, I had some painkillers but I was still very bruised and swollen and
every bump in the road was painful. I finally
arrived home. I had been strong up to
this point and tried to keep my emotions in check.
It was at this point
as I walked through the door I saw Missy, sat on the top of our brown leather
sofa. She casually looked over her
shoulder with sleepy eyes and meowed. I knew
I was home!
Even as I write this I
can feel a lump welling in my throat. At
that time I couldn’t hold it in and burst into tears. Im not sure why? Was it the sight of our house, Missy? I think it was a combination of everything that
washed over me causing an overload of emotions…..silly really.
Anyway, when we had to
make the decision about missy as she had been unwell for some time all I could
think about was this snapshot of my journey.
She was a companion during the following weeks were I adapted to my new
life with a stoma. While I overcame and
processed what had happened to me. I had
underestimated what an important part of my life she had been over recent
months. But at that moment in the vets I
was reminded.
Missy was my first pet
so for that alone she will be special. Something
I am sure any pet owners appreciate. .
If you don’t have pets or never have you’ll probably be reading this thinking…WHAT???
But more than that
Missy was a very important part of my recovery, more than I had realised until
she was no longer in our family.
She will
be missed but importantly I will always be grateful for the companionship she
showed me during some of the most challenging months of my life.